From the series of blog posts: Messages from Spirit
This series examines some of the most common messages that the spirit world tends to share with sitters.
I am always touched when a loved one in spirit visits during a reading to ask for forgiveness. This has been a common theme of my readings, and the circumstances surrounding the request can vary. Passed loved ones may want forgiveness for the way they treated others during their lifetime. They may need to be forgiven for not understanding or showing love to the sitter when they were alive. Often, I hear parents (in spirit) apologize for not being more present in real life, by putting work and other obligations before family and friends. I have also witnessed the spirits of passed loved one return to apologize for choices made when they were battling their own addictions and mental illnesses.
Many times, sitters are confused by these apologies. They tell me that their loved one has nothing to apologize for, that they were never upset by anything that their passed loved one did. I like to remind them that these apologies are more for the spirit- set them free, accept their apology and allow them to move on.
Often, sitters come to me to apologize to their passed loved ones. They are sorry for not "being there" when their loved one died, for not understanding the depth of their pain during life, or for not being present in the way they wished they could be. ALWAYS, spirit is forgiving.
Forgiveness is a beautiful theme in Heaven and the universal spirit world. Just as our passed loved ones return to make amends, we are reminded of the freedom that is granted to us when we are willing to forgive. "To forgive" does not mean "to forget". In fact, forgiveness begins with acknowledging the hurt that arose from the situation. The spirit world has learned the wisdom of validating pain, acknowledging, forgiving and moving forward with love. How can you apply this gift in your life?